The Difference Between Successful People and Really Successful People
by Ben Reinking
Mar 01, 2025
Let's face it, "No" is the most underrated word in medicine. In this week's, blog post, I tackle the the delicate art of saying no.
Key takeaways:
- Why saying “no” isn’t selfish—it’s essential for avoiding burnout and delivering better patient care.
- How to communicate boundaries gracefully (without sounding like a “defensive intern on call”).
- The secret to reframing guilt: Protecting your energy is a professional skill.
Read it, bookmark it, and start practicing your polite but firm “No, thank you” face.
"The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything."
Warren Buffet
Coach's Corner
Like most things in life, learning to say no takes practice. Try this quick exercise and take one thing off your plate this month!
- List your top 3 priorities this month (e.g., family time, sleep, finishing that research project).
- Jot down 2-3 commitments that drain you but feel “obligatory.”
- Pick ONE to decline using the “sandwich method”: Gratitude + Boundary + Offer Alternatives.
Example: “I appreciate you thinking of me! Unfortunately, I can’t take on that committee role right now. Could I recommend a colleague instead?
Remember: Every "no" to the non-essential is a "yes" to what truly matters.
Your well-being matters. Your boundaries matter. You matter.
Stay curious, stay compassionate, and keep developing—you’ve got this!
Ben
P.S. Ready for some support as you start saying "Yes" to the things that matter? Here's how I can help:
- Book a 👉🏻FREE coaching consultation. You'll leave with at least one action item
- Enroll in "Mastery and Wellness: How to Thrive as a Physician". Start creating the life and career your deserve.
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