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by Ben Reinking

Jan 26, 2025

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It starts with EQ, not IQ

Remember that patient who left you feeling completely drained last week? Or that colleague interaction that kept you up at night? Today's blog post might just be the game-changer you've been looking for.

In "Emotional Intelligence: A Physician's Guide," we're taking a deep dive into why your EQ might matter more than your medical degree when it comes to patient outcomes and career satisfaction. (Spoiler alert: It's not just about being "nice" – it's about being effective.)

" I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. "

-Maya Angelou

Isn't it fascinating? In medicine, we spend years mastering complex procedures and memorizing the Kreb's cycle, but the strongest impression we leave often comes down to how we make someone else them feel.

Coach's Corner: The 3-Breath Reset

Try this exercise on the days when your fuse is a little short, the empathy bucket is running dry, or simply betwen patient encounters for a quick reset. It won't add any time to your day and is an easy and breathing in an out!

Before you walk into a room, take 3 intentional breaths

Breath 1: Notice your current emotional statement
Breath 2: Release any tension or previous patient interactions
Breath 3: Set an intention for how you want your patient to feel

Takes 30 seconds. Changes everything.

Ready to transform your practice and rediscover your joy in medicine?

Here's how I can help:

🔸 Book a FREE 30 coaching consultation

🔸 Explore our online course "Mastery and Wellness: How to Thrive as a Physician"

Your patients invest their trust in you. Isn't it time you invested in yourself?

Here's to building better connections,

Ben
The Developing Doctor

P.S. Forward this to a colleague who could use some EQ insights today. They'll thank you later! 😊

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